Personal Experience

Reading about the personal experience of other long distance parents can provide an immediate sense of support. You are not alone!  There are many, long distance parents going through some of the same things you and your kids are experiencing.  That single realization was maybe the most important realization for myself, and for many other long distance parents. 

The posts in this archive all describe the experiences of long distance parents. The comment threads are also often active with other long distance parents sharing their own experiences.

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The Power of Positivity, and Forgiveness

About 6 months ago, I said to a friend that I could never forgive my ex for what she’d done. “I’m not Ghandi” I said, “…and I never will be”. And I honestly thought that would never change… Especially so soon after I’d said it. Maybe I needed to hear myself say those words in order to fully understand what they meant? I’m not sure… But whatever the reason, I am thankful that I do now understand the relief that comes from letting go of old grudges. ‘To improve is to change”, as a wise old soul once said, so …

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Off to College – Long Distance Parenting

My son went off to college last fall.  In many  ways, it was the end of what had been a very long long distance co-parenting saga.  He would turn 18 shortly after leaving for college.  No more child support.  No more wrangling school and travel stuff with my co-parent.  We had reached the finish line. In many ways, our relationship is changing in the same way most relationships between young adults and their parents change.  He’s coming to a better understanding of how real, pressing and heavy adult responsibilities can be and he has, more than once, expressed gratitude to me for things …

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The Long Game – Co-Parents Forever

I sat in the plain waiting room that took up one side of the double wide trailer behind the courthouse. As per usual, they said “be there at 8” and meant “we’ll be ready for you at 10”. A younger mom in her twenties leaned over to her child’s father and said something quietly. He laughed. I tried to imagine their story. What could have landed them in the department of child support office together so young, yet still friends? A man came out of the hallway and called some names. A man in his late forties, who had been …

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The Firing Squad

Three years ago my kids moved to another state across the country from me with their dad. He and I realized it was time to release one another to live separate lives so we could both be happy. With a great deal of respect and love for one another, we carefully constructed a new arrangement for our family. I live in Colorado, they live in Vermont. I travel to Vermont every month to spend time with them, staying in the house where they live with their dad, my ex-husband. They spend summers with me in Colorado. Aside from the obvious …

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Long Distance Parent Surprise

I am the father of a 4 year old boy that is currently living in Colombia with his mother and her family. I just found out about him around 2 years ago and my life has been a whirlwind ever since. I met his mother while I was in my 3rd year of medical school in Miami. We dated for about 5 months but then I was heading to NYC to finish my last 1 1/2 years of school. Due to some miscommunication on both of our parts, we split up and went our separate ways. We tried keeping in …

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To leave?

I cannot describe the sense of relief I feel since finding this site, to know I’m not the only one in this situation. Long story short, I left my ex at the beginning of the year. It was the right thing to do, our relationship had been over for years and we both struggled to see it. Due to the separation I ended up losing my job not long after and have been struggling financially since. I have to move into affordable accommodation and it is not ideal. My ex and I also have 50% care arrangement of our 6 year …

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