These books, although not specifically long distance parenting books, center around managing your co-parenting relationship. However, your relationship with your co-parent is crucial to long distance parenting.
Above all else, perhaps, in a long distance parenting arrangement, co-parents must be able to effectively communicate. Certainly no co-parenting relationship is perfect. But it is possible to have a cooperative, helpful co-parenting relationship.
In a difficult co-parenting relationship, at best, every interaction with your co-parent will be painful. At worst, your access to your kids could be limited.
If you want to fix your relationship with your co-parent, one of the first places we instinctively look is for examples. Unfortunately, there are not always shining examples of effective co-parenting around us. Consequentially we need to find resources to help and that’s where these books come in.
If you’ve had trouble communicating with your co-parent, all three of these books come highly recommended from long distance parents. Pick one of them up and tell me what you think in the comments!
It’s a fact that parenting is hard enough in a family where two parents love and respect each other… After divorce, when the respect has diminished and the love has often turned to intense dislike, co-parenting can be nearly impossible, driving one or both parents to the brink of insanity. Joint Custody with a Jerk offers many proven communication techniques that help you deal with your difficult ex-husband or ex-wife. By outlining common problems and teaching tools to examine your own role in these sticky situations, this book conveys strategies for effective mediation that are easy to apply, sensible, timely and innovative.
This revised edition of a bestselling classic sheds light on how today’s digital forms of communication can both hurt and help in custody conflicts, and offers updated information throughout that brings age-old issues into the present day.book description from Amazon
Co-Parenting 101is based on the premise that co-parenting is a must, not an option. The involvement of both parents―not just the primary guardian―is the cornerstone of successful co-parenting. This is the first book written by a formerly married couple for whom co parenting is central to their day to day lives, and it offers a comprehensive, personal, and upfront look at how to effectively raise kids with an ex-spouse.
Authors Deesha Philyaw and Michael D. Thomas, the creators of the popular co-parenting website, co-parenting101.org, share their own experiences raising their children together, as well as provide professional advice from co-parenting experts. Through practical tips combined with expert parental strategies, this book a great resource for divorced parents with children.
For parents, less time stressed out about legal wrangling means more time to be fully present and engaged with the children. By learning to put their animosity aside, parents can focus on putting their kids first.book description from Amazon
Conflicts inevitably arise from living in two households. You don’t have to like your ex, but, if you are going to co-parent successfully, you will still have to deal with your ex. Dr. Farber helps you navigate the upheaval with practical advice based on real-world families. His book shows you how to
– Know what to say, and not to say, to your child about separation and divorce
– Cope with child support and other money issues
– Handle the holidays and special family occasions
– Choose and adjust to new schools
– Introduce your child to a potential new partner
– Co-parent when an ex has a personality disorder, addiction problem, or is a bully
– Decide when to recruit the help of a parent coordinator
– Raise a healthy child while co-parenting
You’ll draw strength and encouragement from the positive outcomes he’s helped hurting parents and children achieve as they confronted such gripping problem areas. Dr. Farber’s expert analysis and counsel will show you how to use co-parenting to turn your broken marriage into a working divorce that supports the emotional and developmental health of your children caught in the crossfire.book description from Amazon
Have you read one of these books – or a different co-parenting book that helped you? I’d love to hear about it in the comments!