Personal Experience

Reading about the personal experience of other long distance parents can provide an immediate sense of support. You are not alone!  There are many, long distance parents going through some of the same things you and your kids are experiencing.  That single realization was maybe the most important realization for myself, and for many other long distance parents. 

The posts in this archive all describe the experiences of long distance parents. The comment threads are also often active with other long distance parents sharing their own experiences.

Desperate Mom Without Hope

I haven’t been able to hold my two beautiful children for 4 months, ever since I left New Hampshire for Canada because I was losing my home to foreclosure… This all started when I left my husband and our “marital home” in 2009 because of years of emotional abuse. We agreed (verbally) that we would have a 50/50 schedule with no support. Immediately he developed additional emotional needs and ad a couple episodes of what a therapist would call a “cry for help.” I asked if he wanted to keep the kids an additional weekend to help him cope and …

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My Two Beautiful Daughters are in Another Country

I am in Australia and my wife (soon to be ex) and 2 beautiful daughters are in Jakarta, Indonesia. It’s “only” 7 hrs flight away, but the costs and practicalities of going there make it only likely to happen once a year. My girls are only 2.5 years and 3 months old! So I barely know the littlest one, I was there for her birth, but the 2.5 yr old lived with me and my wife in Australia for the first year and half of her life and so we know each other well. I can barely cope some days …

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Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control by Heather T Forbes

Survival Mode and the Relentless Drive for a Better Life

I recently had the life-altering experience of reading Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control: A Love-Based Approach to Helping Attachment-Challenged Children With Severe Behaviors. My son, who has a long distance dad, and to whom I have, at one time, been a long distance mom to, has some challenging behavior that this book addresses. I read it because I needed something, anything that would help me connect with him in a different way. I was struggling against pre-adolescent angst mixed with valid fear and anger from him that seemed so compounded that I had no idea how to tackle it. After …

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Letter from a Long Distance Dad

reposted with permission from the author – he became a distance parent in September 2011 when he moved back to his home country, England. His son is 4. I was looking on google for a forum for long distance parents. Over the past 3 months I have been slowly adjusting to a new life thousands of miles from my son. I am English and have recently moved back to the UK from South America where my son lives with his mum. I feel desperately sad at times. I worry a lot about my very nearly 4 year old son. From …

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Adjustment Period

I haven’t posted here in awhile. Truth be told, I view this site (and accompanying Facebook page) as an uplifting support system, ripe with extremely valuable insight and optimistic outlooks and advice on how best to make the most of a very trying situation. I love how all involved help to lift each other up, give advice and share their own stories. It’s a virtual home of hope and support, all in such a wonderful vein of positivity. I guess lately, I’ve felt that I can’t add too much of that hopeful outlook, as I’ve been struggling as my little …

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