Missing my Daughter

At some point of every day I find myself standing in my daughter’s room and wishing she were here.  The room is decorated in shades of pink with posters of Hannah Montana and Disney princesses on the walls.  The shelves are filled with toys, books, stuffed animals, games, dolls, and art supplies.  In the corner of the room is her kitchen set along with all of the play food and dishes needed to host a fabulous make-believe party.  The only thing missing is my favorite girl. 

~Holly

holly

I am so excited to be a part of this wonderful open community where parents can come and share their experiences in a non-threatening environment and without fear of criticism or judgment. I have been a long distance mom for almost two years now. The living arrangement I have with one of my children is not ideal but my current husband and I are doing our best to make it work. Being a long distance mom has been such an unparalleled experience for me that I have found it difficult to find others with which to talk about issues that are unique to being a long distance mom โ€“ until now. The image of long distance parents (moms especially) is in desperate need of a makeover. I think it is important for all of us, whether we are distance parents by choice or by circumstance, to focus on maintaining a happy, healthy family life. Thatโ€™s where the forums on this site come in. This is a place to share ideas, vent frustrations, and receive emotional support from others in similar situations. I have several ideas for topics that I think will be interesting to explore including social stigma, long separations, visitation, legal issues, financial issues, holidays, travel, non-supportive people, etc. In sharing my personal stories, Iโ€™m hoping to help others know that they are not alone in the challenge of being a long distance parent.

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Carrie
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Carrie

My son moved to live with me a couple of years ago and then my step daughter moved to live with her mom last month. It’s almost like going through it all over again. I have often found myself wandering back to her room and looking around. It’s so empty without her there. She loves hannah Montana too. ๐Ÿ™‚

sandrar
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Hi! I was surfing and found your blog post… nice! I love your blog. ๐Ÿ™‚ Cheers! Sandra. R.

Andy
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Andy

I am in the same situation I just heard today my girlfriend left me for good with our child, my daughter, I am so down I feel like a tank ran over me, same thing her room is there with all the toys and she’s missing… it breaks my heart I have been weeping all day ,
they are 1500 km away, how will I cope with the days to come….
I’m shattered…

Jay Goff
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I can empathize with your sadness. I too often do the same things as I enter my now 14 year old’s room and it is still the way she left it a year ago. She’s been giving me the silent treatment since Dec 2013 over an issue I addressed and my discouragement over her choices. But with her in Washington and I in Missouri, and the added influence of a venomous mother, my heart is broken daily as she still refuses to communicate with me. Sadly, I have been witnessing more and more of an apathetic behavior from her, very… Read more »

Kelly
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Kelly

I’m in your same boat,only I’m the mother. She turns 18 tomorrow and it will be the first time I haven’t given her a birthday party. My heart hurts so much! And, I’m in the same town!

matthew
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I know that empty room all too well. It was, quite literally, just a week ago that it was filled with the only person who can bring it to life in it’s rightful way. Now, with Summer winding down, and my daughter 1500 miles away getting ready to start another school year, it returns to that empty vessel, containing One Direction posters, lifeless stuffed animals, and toys that she’ll likely outgrow by the next time she’s back. The pink canopy twin bed looks massive when it’s so empty. Walking past her room everyday brings forth the most bittersweet feelings imaginable.… Read more »

Cory
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Cory

I moved back to Alaska when my girl was 9. Her 10th birthday was the first I ever missed. She was born here, like me, and I wanted her to experience it. I also did it for financial reasons. I second guess myself daily. She flies up to see me and I fly to Va. on her birthday. I’m sad and I worry constantly about her, and our relationship. I fear that she will resent me and have poor relationships as a woman. I love her so much, and miss her horribly.

Shawn
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Shawn

I am home alone. My spouse left me and took our 16 month old baby girl with her. It’s been a month and it’s getting harder every day. Despite our differences I still wish she was here with me. I love them so. Sometimes life happens and we just don’t know how to talk it out without severe feelings and posturing. It’s sad. We’re all human and we all make mistakes. We always forget what brought us together. I often stand in my little girls room or sit in the rocking chair weeping and wishing she were with me. Wishing… Read more »

Eric
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Eric

I know exactly how you feel. You need to be strong, seek help from your network of friends and family, and don’t do anything dumb. Fix what you are responsible for and move toward a solution with the law on your side. Don’t fight with your ex, don’t stalk, don’t message, don’t call. Let the system work with the help of an attorney. It will take time, but make the most of it.

Ben
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Ben

When my daughter was four months old, I got a call out of the blue from my wife, telling me that she was leaving me and taking our daughter with her. That single moment made my entire life cave in, and six hours later I found myself in the woods, crying, screaming, and seriously wondering if I would see tomorrow. The days passed, and in a few weeks I once again could speak at a normal volume, though had no energy to do anything and couldn’t concentrate. Even seeing a baby would shatter me, and it would take several hours… Read more »

Anna
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Anna

I’m sitting in her room right now feeling an incredible longing to hug her. She is away at university in a different country 3000 miles away. Although I see her between terms the ache of not having her around just cannot go away…

Eric
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Eric

I was in a relationship with a women who adopted a beautiful, blue eyed little girl from Russia in 2007. When they arrived in DC, I fell in love with her right then and there-all 28 lbs of her exhausted little life. I bonded with her over the next 7 years, through the stages of development like talking, potty training, learning to swim, learning to ride a bike, first day of kindergarten, etc., etc. While my relationship with her deepened, my relationship with her mother went wrong and eventually ended. One day she moved out of the house, taking the… Read more »

rach
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I feel for all of you wonderful parents who care so much for your children,I too miss my Babygirl,who at 19 for no reason went into cardiac arrest and passed this last Christmas,trying to make sense,find acceptence and move forward has taken everything Ive got,so lost,so displaced,so lonely,It is not for me to question,although I do,I guess what I want to say,is that your loved ones are still here,keep it in perspective,and use that Hope to fuel your journey ahead,children should not be put in the middle of grown up issuses,but they are,use every opportunity to let them know your… Read more »

John Dowling
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My three daughters decided to go and live with their mom. I am a single father and have had joint custody of them. My oldest is 16 and my twins are 14. Itโ€™s such a hard time living in a house where every other week I had my children and now nothing. They say that they will visit often and still it is a sad ordeal. I know in 3 years my oldest will be able to be out on her own and 5 years my twins will do the same.

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