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Long Distance Parent Surprise

I am the father of a 4 year old boy that is currently living in Colombia with his mother and her family. I just found out about him around 2 years ago and my life has been a whirlwind ever since. I met his mother while I was in my 3rd year of medical school in Miami. We dated for about 5 months but then I was heading to NYC to finish my last 1 1/2 years of school. Due to some miscommunication on both of our parts, we split up and went our separate ways. We tried keeping in …

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To leave?

I cannot describe the sense of relief I feel since finding this site, to know I’m not the only one in this situation. Long story short, I left my ex at the beginning of the year. It was the right thing to do, our relationship had been over for years and we both struggled to see it. Due to the separation I ended up losing my job not long after and have been struggling financially since. I have to move into affordable accommodation and it is not ideal. My ex and I also have 50% care arrangement of our 6 year …

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Desperate Mom Without Hope

I haven’t been able to hold my two beautiful children for 4 months, ever since I left New Hampshire for Canada because I was losing my home to foreclosure… This all started when I left my husband and our “marital home” in 2009 because of years of emotional abuse. We agreed (verbally) that we would have a 50/50 schedule with no support. Immediately he developed additional emotional needs and ad a couple episodes of what a therapist would call a “cry for help.” I asked if he wanted to keep the kids an additional weekend to help him cope and …

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Triage for New Long Distance Parents

For the first time ever, you are a parent without your child. For the first time, you feel a million miles way from them, even if you are really only a city, a state or a country away. Best case, you have a great relationship with your co-parent and you’ll talk to your child soon but worst case, you don’t and you might not get to talk to them any time soon. Whichever your situation, or wherever you fall in between, the first few days are the hardest. Here is how to get through it more easily. Practice Excellent Self …

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My Two Beautiful Daughters are in Another Country

I am in Australia and my wife (soon to be ex) and 2 beautiful daughters are in Jakarta, Indonesia. It’s “only” 7 hrs flight away, but the costs and practicalities of going there make it only likely to happen once a year. My girls are only 2.5 years and 3 months old! So I barely know the littlest one, I was there for her birth, but the 2.5 yr old lived with me and my wife in Australia for the first year and half of her life and so we know each other well. I can barely cope some days …

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