My son went off to college last fall. In many ways, it was the end of what had been a very long long distance co-parenting saga. He would turn 18 shortly after leaving for college. No more child support. No more wrangling school and travel stuff with my co-parent. We had reached the finish line. In many ways, […]
Leading up to this moment, I’d been contemplating the co-parenting long game. How age 18 wasn’t the end of the road. My son is 17 now and we are talking a lot about college now, as a trio. The next thing we will cooperate on. It finally occurred to me that we would be co-parents […]
Three years ago my kids moved to another state across the country from me with their dad. The heartache of being apart from my children is obvious. The second hardest thing about this is the constant self-doubt which is inextricably combined with judgement (both real and perceived) of others. My ex and I realized it […]
I haven’t been able to hold my two beautiful children for 4 months, ever since I left New Hampshire for Canada. This all started when I left my husband and our “marital home” in 2009 because of years of emotional abuse. We agreed (verbally) that we would have a 50/50 schedule with no child support. […]
Maybe this is the hot ticket with older kids. The way to show support from a distance. To pitch in and help them with stuff that they want or need to do but could use some help doing it better or bigger or cooler. There are tons of those opportunities in upper middle school projects and definitely in high school and technology gives us a way to collaborate in a way we’ve never had before. Or maybe it’s just one more tool to add to the toolkit of a long distance parent.
During my (almost 20 years – yikes!) journey gathering community around long distance parenting, I’ve read and seen a lot of things regarding divorce, child custody, non-custodial parents, deadbeat parents and parental alienation syndrome. One thing that sticks out to me is how gender biased the stories typically are. I lost custody because I’m a […]