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No matter how a person comes to be in a long distance parenting situation, by choice or by circumstance, one thing remains: Being away from a child is hard! Having a support system helps and this site is a great place to start. It has helped me to understand that I am absolutely not alone in being a long distance mom. I’ve also recently joined a local support group for parents in similar situations. It is refreshing to share experiences with other moms who don’t look at me funny when I say my daughter lives in another state. It is understood that every situation is different and we don’t judge. I highly recommend connecting with other long distance parents in whatever way works for you: online, in person, or both.

~Holly

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holly

I am so excited to be a part of this wonderful open community where parents can come and share their experiences in a non-threatening environment and without fear of criticism or judgment. I have been a long distance mom for almost two years now. The living arrangement I have with one of my children is not ideal but my current husband and I are doing our best to make it work. Being a long distance mom has been such an unparalleled experience for me that I have found it difficult to find others with which to talk about issues that are unique to being a long distance mom – until now. The image of long distance parents (moms especially) is in desperate need of a makeover. I think it is important for all of us, whether we are distance parents by choice or by circumstance, to focus on maintaining a happy, healthy family life. That’s where the forums on this site come in. This is a place to share ideas, vent frustrations, and receive emotional support from others in similar situations. I have several ideas for topics that I think will be interesting to explore including social stigma, long separations, visitation, legal issues, financial issues, holidays, travel, non-supportive people, etc. In sharing my personal stories, I’m hoping to help others know that they are not alone in the challenge of being a long distance parent.
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Carrie
Admin
11 years ago

I think that ‘not being judged’ thing is a big deal. It REALLY helps build confidence to have a community of parents experiencing a similar thing. And with confidence comes the ability to look someone square in the eye and declare it not a ‘bad’ thing that your parenting arrangement happens to be long distance. πŸ™‚

natalie
natalie
10 years ago

Holly, I have just come across this site, I am a really looongg distance parent; my son is in the States and I am in Europe. I made this move almost two years ago and I am dying for some ways to help myself emotionally to come to terms with my decision and to learn how to cope. Often I am at a loss as to what to tell myself to combat guilt feelings, I love my son and want to be with him but I do not have the resources to live near him. I have to adjust to… Read more »

Danielle
Danielle
10 years ago

I agree. Being judged is the worst part. My own family has disowned me because of my choice to move away. It is painful to miss my children, even more painful to realize that my family thinks that I am not worried or concerned about my kids. I am grow more and more angry every day about this. How do I deal with my resentment toward my family and parent my children long distance? I also feel that when my kids are around my family, I am under-minded by my family. They eluded that I am a horrible mother and… Read more »

Carrie
Carrie
10 years ago

First, I would address how YOU feel about being a long distance mom. If you don’t feel shame or guilt, it’s harder for them to make you feel badly. That said, there is really little else that can be done other than to use every experience as a learning experience. For instance, if they say something nasty, rather than reacting, Take a few deep breaths and relax, try to relate to where they are coming from… then just release it. Just let it go. It’s not your anger and bitterness.. it’s theirs. Let them marinate in their own grossness. πŸ™‚… Read more »

Danielle
Danielle
10 years ago

I do feel guilt. I think society conditions us to feel that, less so for men. I know what I am doing is best for me and the future and I stay strong and true to that. I believe that the future can and will be better. I find that being forgiving and, as you said, releasing it, sets me free. From there I am free to deal with my self, my feelings and deal with my children in a loving and supportive way. Still, it’s hard…. I choose not to spend christmas with my children because they ( and… Read more »

andrea
andrea
9 years ago

I sure do feel for you, danielle. I have a sister who is the opposite and is angry with me because I chose NOT to give up my children and return back home to where all of my family is. Actually, I am in the process of considering it BUT for the reason that I have a grown daughter and new grandbaby that frankly, I really dont know (I do have a great relationship with my grown daughter). I have been alone up here where I got divorced for 7 years and I am homesick in the worst way and… Read more »